Tilda's not-so-secret lover

When I first read this peek into to the private life of Tilda Swinton, I was all like "WAY TO GO GIRLFRIEND" but then... I dunno... my inner uptight hausfrau started screaming from the back room of mah poor brain and she was screaming something along the lines of "nooooooooooo... sinner .... wrooooong".

You see, Tilda lives in Nairn, Scotland (not Narnia as I first thought) and she is married to painter John Byrne.  Together they have two children, eleven-year old twins, Xavier and Honor.

But the family also has an extra member: Sandro Kopp, Tilda's thirty-year old lover.

Secret lovers that's what we are,
We should not be together,
But we can't let go cause we love each other so.

Dudes, I'm quoting Atlantic Starr, someone stop me because oh my word, her secret lover is not a secret.  Tilda has.. err.. meets with him right out in the open.  Her family is fully aware and apparently copacetic with it.

And even I, the most liberal side of my brain, thinks this is strange.

Here is what she said to the Daily Express about the whole relationship:

"But it's a situation that I find very healthy. I can maintain my life with my children and their father and spend time with the man I have become very fond of.

"I am very fortunate there has been a lot of understanding by the men.

"It may seem odd but it is certainly the best thing for the children."

Really?  Best thing for the kids?

Wow... so what do you think folks?

[ source image: google images ]

Comments

[kgirl]

I totally thought she was a dyke.

I think that the husband of Oscar-bound Tilda will put up with such nonsense. Probably the husband of 'The Beach' Tilda would have not. Can you say sugarmama?

[Athena]

I know of more than a few triads, it's a very popular concept now that society has become more open-minded. I think if everyone is happy, then good for them.

[kittenpie]

I guess it depends on the alternative - if it's better this way than their mom being trapped and bitter or a nasty divorce and custody battle, then I get that entirely. That really could be better for the kids - though I do know someone whose father used to bring his mistress along on family holidays, and they grew up pretty miserable about that.